The protector

“The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him!”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭20:7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Being a father of two daughters, I understand the duties and responsibilities of protecting and providing for my children. Your children become your world and your purpose for living. Their happiness becomes your happiness and their sadness becomes your sadness. Protection of our children becomes our top priority.

I have many stories from years on the farm, but one story reminds me of a protective father.

The story took place when I was 13 or 14 years old. My family raised cattle on the farm at this time and it was time to take weaned calves to the market to be sold. My dad, my granddad, and I started the day sorting the calves that we wanted to sell from the rest of the herd. As we worked on sorting the calves, the bull and father to the calves watched us intensely all morning. Once the sorting was completed and the calves to be sold were loaded onto the livestock trailer, we prepared to pull the trailer to my grandparents’ house before leaving for the livestock market. I drove the pickup pulling the trailer. As I pulled up to the main gate, the bull that had been watching us was blocking the gate. I honked the horn and yelled for him to move but he stayed put. I got out of the pickup and moved toward him to get him to move, he turned and looked at me but never moved. I walked back to the pickup to honk the horn again and move the pickup a little closer to him. While I was walking back to the pickup, the bull moved to the left side of the livestock trailer and with his body pushed on the trailer. He then went to the other side and did the same. As he was doing this, I ran to open the gate. By the time I got back to the pickup, he had returned to block the gate opening. He continued the back and forth blocking the gate and rocking the trailer for ten minutes until my dad came and helped me get him to move. For the next two days, the bull stayed by the main gate waiting, he was never the same after that.

That’s the way it is with dads, we want to protect our children from all of the suffering, the pain, and the disappointments of the world but we can’t. With each event in our children’s lives that cause pain, suffering, worry, stress, and disappointment, it changes us because it changes our children and we are never the same. Dads work hard to protect and to provide, knowing all along the impossibility to fully achieve. Yet, we do it anyway.

On this Father’s Day, tell your dad that you love him and thank him for all that he does for you, but mostly thank him for loving you more than he often loves himself because he blames himself for all of your shortcomings.

To all the dads out there, thank you for all you do and Happy Father’s Day from us here at #welcome2serenity. Thank you for visiting.

A new day

A constant on the farm is life and death. We see new life created and old lives extinguished, but with both there is always the new day.

This week, I learned of the passing of a friend and family member. This person had an impact on my life that shaped my career in IT and my view toward farming in general. A friend, who came by our house and talked to my dad for hours about anything and everything. He helped me to get my first major job after college and helped to ensure my advancement with my career.

While processing the news of his passing, I began to think about the amount of death that I have seen on the farm. I have seen baby animals be healthy and happy to die hours to days later. I have seen still born animals and watched as the mom dealt with the loss. I have seen predators massacre livestock and mentally dealt with the loss. With all of this, there was always a new day.

The new day, the next day came no matter what. God gave us that reassurance that He has control and that everything is part of a plan. There will be a new day, a new dawn, and a new life.

Though we may mourn, those that pass will start one final new day and what they leave behind are good memories and love. So now I look forward to the new day each morning with beautiful sunrises and sunsets. With plenty of opportunities to create memories between. Thank you for visiting and #welcome2serenity.